Biblical Pattern For The Family
Hey guys,
I want to share with you what the Bible says about the roles of each family member. I hope this post sparks an hunger in you to study further.
Husbands are called to LOVE their wives like they love themselves & like how Christ loved the church.
Eph 5:25 NKJV - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,
Eph 5:33 NLT - So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
In order to love like Christ we must Love, study the Life and Lessons of Jesus
Hbr 12:2 NKJV - looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of [our] faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
Husbands must learn to seek wholeness and learn to loves themselves (not fall in love with yourself) or they will never learn to truly love their wives with wholeness.
Husbands must see the potential of our family under the blessings of God
Psa 128:3 NKJV - Your wife [shall be] like a fruitful vine In the very heart of your house, Your children like olive plants All around your table.
Husbands are also called to bring unity and band everyone together...i.e. hus(house)BAND
(tip for the wives..if you want your husband to LOVE you more act more lovable)
Wives are called to Respect their husbands
Eph 5:33 NLT - So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Wives must learn to respect their husbands (respect=esteem...wives know that husbands often have fragile egos).
When you respect your husband it builds them up internally that will effect their (and your) external conditions, remember their income is often effected by their outcome and our outcome is directly connected to our self esteem/confidence/image.
note: it would be easier for husbands to respect and wives to love but the word of God challenges us to grow in this challenge in order to help each other blossom.
(Tip for husbands if you want your wives to respect you more than act more respectable)
Raising Kids- We must love, appreciate, recognize their potential and TRAIN them.
Kids are a gift and reward. They have the potential to be sharp and even help you in the future!
Psa 127:3 NLT - Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him.
Psa 127:4 NLT - Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior's hands.
Psa 127:5 NLT - How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them! He will not be put to shame when he confronts his accusers at the city gates.
Psa 144:12 NKJV - That our sons [may be] as plants grown up in their youth; [That] our daughters [may be] as pillars, Sculptured in palace style;
Bring them to Jesus from young
Mat 19:13 NKJV - Then little children were brought to Him that He might put [His] hands on them and pray, but the disciples rebuked them.
Mat 19:14 NKJV - But Jesus said, "Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of heaven."
Don't let everyone else see more potential in your kids than you do
1Sa 16:10 NLT - In the same way all seven of Jesse's sons were presented to Samuel. But Samuel said to Jesse, "The LORD has not chosen any of these."
1Sa 16:11 NLT - Then Samuel asked, "Are these all the sons you have?" "There is still the youngest," Jesse replied. "But he's out in the fields watching the sheep and goats." "Send for him at once," Samuel said. "We will not sit down to eat until he arrives."
Jessie didn't see David's regal potential but of all King Saul's servant does (see below)
1Sa 16:18 NLT - One of the servants said to Saul, "One of Jesse's sons from Bethlehem is a talented harp player. Not only that--he is a brave warrior, a man of war, and has good judgment. He is also a fine-looking young man, and the LORD is with him."
We must train (coach/teach/guide with love) our children so they can grow from dependence on you to independent young adults that begin a life-long dependence on God to an effective Christ-following Interdependent Man/Woman that contributes to the Kingdom of God and society itself.
We must remember its easy to be good at distributing occasional punishment but its a challenge to establish daily discipline. Instruction & Inspiration is better than intimidation in the long run.
Pro 22:6 NKJV - Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.
Parents we must lodge these words in our hearts-Govern (lead/manage) Guard (physical/mental against others and sometimes from themselves) and Guide (be a model/teach/train)
(Note to Parents if we want our kids to honor us more then we must act more honorable)
I hope this helps and sparks a desire for you to study further.
Peace,
Pastor Ed
Victory Outreach North Brooklyn meets every Sunday @ 108 Manhattan ave (Beween Boerum ave & Johnson ave). We are near the L train Montrose stop, the G train Flushing stop and the J train @ flushing ave . Service starts at 11am (service is approx 90 minutes long) Some people wear suits and some people come in jeans, what really matters is that you are there ready to discover (or re-discover) the difference Jesus makes. www.vonorthbrooklyn.org
Great Lesson Pastor.
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